Lol, what's this about?
Do you ever feel desperate for love and attention? I do, and quite often. Never have I needed more love than now. And no, I'm not talking about finding bae or getting married this year.
Have you ever thought about how scary the whole idea of falling in love is? Or the concept of forever; finding the one who would love you till death? Lol, it's so funny cause there are days I don't even like me. I think the biggest lie that the media sold us was the idea of finding happiness in love.
Now don't get me wrong, there is happiness in love, but only because you created it. The truth is, as much as we think happiness happens to us, we create it.
Don't get me confused, ma'am, explain.
Okay, I'm getting to it. Have you ever texted a crush? You know excited you are every time he replies and how you literally can't leave your phone cause you're waiting for the next time it beeps? Once it does, your heart is caught in your throat with excitement cause you can't wait to see what he said. And there are times when the text isn't from him, and almost immediately, your heart crashes back to your rib cage.
Can we be honest here?
So let's be real, what happened to all the enthusiasm? You were genuinely happy when your phone beeped, but once you discovered it wasn't him you became disappointed.
My point is your joy is predicated on your willingness to be happy. Your mind controls what you see, and your belief establishes how your mind works. The fact that you thought you got a text from your crush gave you a reason to be happy, and the thought that it wasn't someone as special gave an excuse to be grumpy. Everything you feel is just a reflection of your beliefs, and everything you think is an expression of what you truly believe about the world and yourself.
Is life ever enough?
There are days that I've been around so many amazing people, food present, great music, and I've still felt so empty. Ideally, I should be happy, I have a good life, amazing friends and family, and sometimes it's still never satisfying.
And sometimes, I wonder, if all these aren't sufficient, then what exactly am I looking for? There's a bible verse that goes, - As a man thinks in his heart, so is he. Time has shown me that everything I believe permits what happens around me. Somedays, I feel so insecure, and I am so aware of my flaws; on those days, it's like everybody picks up how clumsy or mean or annoying I am. And there are days I am super cheerful, and it reflects when people respond to me.
Your thoughts become you
Whether we are aware or not, we subconsciously train others on how to perceive us simply by the thoughts we have about ourselves. That's why the bible says, as a man thinks in his heart so is he.
Strong, confident (not necessarily good-looking) people attract attention because they believe they have something to offer; as a result, others pick up interest in them.
The idea that you need someone to complete you or make you happy is false. I mean, why do so many marriages fail? You are complete, and everything you'll ever need is already within your reach.
To be loved, simply pick a mirror and smile at the person on the other side, and love him/her the way you've always wanted to be.
And there you have it, all the love you've ever needed. And to be fair, love isn't the butterfly feeling. Nope, those are just hormones (sorry for the spoiler alert). Love is an action word that includes kindness, patience, forgiveness, hope.
Love, love, love ... what is love?
For so long, we've had delusions about love, and that's probably because we weren't loved right. I mean, I thought I knew love until I met God; and no, I'm not trying to be religious or anything. He is real, he's love is too, and it is available for anyone. So on days that I feel like less, I just go - God this is what's up. Immediately, I'm reminded of how complete I am in him.
To love, you have to know what love is and to know what love is you have to know God. If you don't, it's fine. You can just say out loud (or in your head or heart) - God I'd like to know you and what love is. Voila.
Whenever I feel like I need someone to show me how special or beautiful I am. I pick up a mirror and find confidence in whom God has made me, and remind myself how special I am. And at that moment I choose happiness.
